Go the Extra Mile

While I was in the grocery store yesterday, I overheard a young man loudly recapping an altercation he had been involved in earlier.  From what I heard him say, --and I didn't really mean to eavesdrop, but he was “pontificating” in the middle of the long dairy/orange juice/snacks aisle! – I knew he was very proud that he had managed to prove himself to be right and the other person to be wrong. 

It wasn't even his words themselves that first caught my attention; it was his body language, accompanied by his loudness.  Watching his arms waving around and hearing his loud, almost shouting voice, I was sure that winning this verbal battle had been, and still was, very important to him—as was his sense of pride in the victory—he was enjoying his bragging rights.  

As I pushed my shopping cart around him, I wanted to stop and ask him, “Does it really matter?”  “Is winning an argument more important than nourishing and retaining a relationship with a relative or a friend or any other person?”  Today, I don’t think winning is terribly important, but in my childhood, I’m not sure I would have agreed.

Many years ago, when I was five years old, I lived in the North Carolina countryside for six months with my grandmother, a dedicated Christian woman. With no television or radio, our nightly entertainment was usually listening to the adult conversation or hearing her tell Bible stories. I remember when I heard the story in which Jesus charged his followers to go the extra mile, I thought He meant for us to literally walk another 5, 280 feet!!  

At that time, my mother didn't drive, my dad was on an overseas assignment, and we walked everywhere we went unless we rode in my uncle’s car to the Piggly Wiggly in Shelby on Saturday mornings and to Sunday school and church on Sundays.  We usually walked on hot dusty paths through fields to my uncle’s house and on hot dusty roads to a little country store—“a right fer piece away”-- so walking another mile, if I didn't absolutely have to, didn't sound appealing to me at all; as a matter of fact, it sounded like punishment—not what I wanted to do for anyone else.

Now, over sixty years later,  after listening to wonderful, knowledgeable teachers and preachers of the Bible, after combing through commentaries and studying God’s Word before teaching Bible studies myself, I know so much better than that younger self did what it means to go the extra mile.  For me today, going the extra mile for someone means I say I’m sorry after a misunderstanding even if I didn't (or don’t think I did!) cause it. 

Going the extra mile means letting someone else win an argument or a  game if it is so important to him.  

Going the extra mile means showing God’s grace to others in the spirit of God’s love.  Just as God gives His good grace to an undeserving sinner such as I am;  so I am also called  to sacrifice my pride, my selfishness, and other examples of my sinfulness and to give grace to people who, in my limited, narrow-minded, earthly vision, don’t always deserve it.

Many times, I have been that young man in the grocery store, bragging about how I had won an argument with loud, sharp words. Now that I am older, however, I ask God to forgive the foolish person I was years ago.  I ask Him to make my words soft and gracious.  I ask Him to give me a loving spirit that can love others as I want God to love me---unconditionally and sacrificially.  

To do this I must put aside all pomposity and let my life be about loving and serving others, not about crowing over my own hard-headedness and winning arguments.  I pray that my young grocery-store friend will also find peace in treating others justly and mercifully, not angrily and self-righteously.

Most Caring, Most Loving God

Most Gracious, Heavenly Father,

Almighty, Most Powerful God, but also

     Most Caring and Most Loving God,

     Too Wonderful for me to grasp,

You want me; permit me, to call You “Abba,”

And You, Supreme Creator, Ruler of all,

     You call me “Beloved.”

What an Awesome God You are, Lord!!

Thank You for Your many blessings,

     for the sacrificial love You bestow on me.

Thank You for Your faithfulness

     to Your covenant with Your people.

Thank You for loving me in spite of myself,

     unworthy and undeserving as I am.

Remind me of my purpose in life:

     to glorify You in all I do, say, and think.

Forgive me when I do not fulfill my purpose,

      and there are too, too many times

      when I do fail to reflect Your glory.

Forgive me for my unclean thoughts,

     for wanting to be most important,

     for being full of pride and selfishness.

I would like to do better, Lord,

     to be a better person,

     to bring honor and glory to You.

Forgive me when I fall short of Your expectations.

Teach me to be humble,

     to be sacrificial when loving others,

     to find joy in turning the other cheek,

     in going the extra mile for others.

Teach me to be a loving servant,

     to be truly repentant,

     to be a receptacle for Your love,

     a vessel through which Your love can flow.

Transform me into the person You need,

     a person You can use to help others.

                            In Christ’s name, I pray.  Amen

I Remember My Afflictions and My Wanderings

Lord, I do remember my afflictions and my wanderings.

I have experienced bitter sadness, blackest depression,

     utter despair and futility in my life.

How many times has unwanted, uninvited doubt,

     in myself, in my worth, even in You, Lord.

     seeped into the marrow of my being? 

Even now, that awful gloom will sometimes slip in

     through the doors of my mind

     to whisper loudly ugly, negative thoughts,

     saying I am unworthy, unloved, untalented.

Old insecurities rush in behind the dreaded gloom

     to scream that I am unimportant and worthless,

     and then they would drag me into that awful darkness

     in which depression thrives and reigns.

But, Lord, because of You, I am now more perceptive,

     more prepared to recognize the work of Satan,

     more aware of his strategy,

     his goal to separate my heart from You.

I know the desperation, with which he fights,

     the relentless pursuit to make me

     one of his many conquests.

Because of the knowledge of Your great love for me,

     Satan cannot capture my soul.

Because of the assurance of Your great love for me,

     I will not give up and wallow in self-pity and despair.

Because I know I serve a Risen Savior, 

     I can and I will rejoice,

     and I will keep my eyes on You.

When I am tempted with feelings of insecurity and hopelessness,

     I will write my prayers to You,

     I will come to You in the quietness of the moment,

     I will worship You, I will praise You, I will adore You.

     I will be still and know that You are God!

     I will call on You to fill my heart and soul with Your Holy Spirit.

     I will remember Your faithfulness;

     I will rely on Your strength when I am weak,

     I will remember Your compassion—new every morning.

You are my portion, Lord!!

What more could I ever want?

I thank You for Your love, Your mercy, and Your peace.

(Lamentations 3:19-24)

Prayer of Confession for March 26, 2013

Gracious Spirit,

Breath upon the waters,

Wind beneath our wings,

Unable to see You,

Deciding You are not really there,

     we trust our own strength,

     make our own decisions,

     enjoy our own triumphs,

     preen in our own success.

We cross an invisible line,

     turn from Your invisible presence.

We do not search for You

     with all our heart, mind, and soul.

We neglect the celebration of discipline:

     prayer, solitude, study, worship, fasting.

We neglect the fellowship of Your church.

     spending time in Your Word,

     learning the basic tenets of our faith.

Gracious Spirit,

     forgive our blind eyes,

     eyes that do not see Your hovering presence.

Let us feel the breath of life

     flowing from Your constant care.

Renew us.

Renew all creation.    

In Christ’s name we pray.

Amen!! Amen!!

Joy comes in the Morning.

Lord God, Creator of all living things, Redeemer of mankind,

I thank You for all the gracious blessings you have bestowed

     upon me and my family this day.

I thank You for answered prayers, for knowing what is best for us

     when we ourselves don’t know.

I thank you for doing all things in accordance with Your perfect will,

     even when we think we know what is best for ourselves,

     when we don’t have patience to keep trusting and waiting on You.

I thank You for being in control of our lives, 
      for lifting our hearts up in joy. 

I praise You, Lord, for Your goodness, Your mercy, Your kindnesses, 
     Your love for me, unworthy sinner that I am.

Lord, help me realize that I don’t have to be the leader all the time.

Teach me to relax and to let others be in charge of situations.

Convince me that I need to be a cheerleader for others;

Help me to train others to take my place.

When others do things differently from the way I do,

      let me react with positive words and praise.

Don’t let me be a nitpicker who purposely hurts feelings.

Let me build others up with favorable, helpful words.

Thank You for the glory of this day and for the joy of being with others.

Lord, You heard our prayers throughout the long night,

     and You have given us joy in the morning.

Praise You, Lord!!  Praise You, Almighty God.

Favorite Prayer by Henri J.M. Nouwen

“Dear God,

I am so afraid to open my clenched fists!
Who will I be when I have nothing left to hold on to?
Who will I be when I stand before you with empty hands?
Please help me to gradually open my hands
and to discover that I am not what I own,
but what you want to give me.” 
― Henri J.M. Nouwen, The Only Necessary Thing: Living a Prayerful Life

Building Walls: Prayer of Confession May 12

O God of lasting peace,                                                                                                     

We have built up walls

     to protect ourselves from our enemies,

     to protect ourselves from being exposed

          as the flighty, sinful people we are,

     to protect ourselves from hurt pride,

     to protect ourselves from embarrassments,        

     to protect ourselves from seeing the need,

          the loneliness, the suffering in

          our neighbor’s eyes,

to protect ourselves from getting our hands messy

          by working with orphans, the homeless,

          the drug addicts, the convicts, the mutilated,

to protect ourselves from worldly ridicule

         for loving and worshiping You.

Lord, those same walls have also confined us.

They have shut us off from receiving Your love,

     from seeing the needs of others,

     from following and serving You

          as You expect us to follow You.

Break down those walls we have built.

Help us to see that the way to Your heart

      is through reconciling our own hearts

             with the hearts of our enemies.

Bless our enemies and bless us.

Teach us to value and love each other.

Teach us to find great joy in our relationships.

Teach us to feel with our emotions and our hearts

     as well as with our hands.

Let our love for You grow and become more evident

     to others.            In Christ’s name, I pray,  Amen.